Hey! Okay so you might have a misconception about arranged marriage. Here’s how it goes down nowadays:
Mom and dad find a boy and ask his parents if he’s up for marriage. OR A boy’s mom and dad find a girl and ask her parents if she’s up for marriage. And if so, they share details - their ages, occupation, what school they attended, field of study, pics of how they look. And then they set a date, families meetup, girl and boy talk, see if they like eachother - like if they have any initial attraction and if they think they’re compatible. And then, they have more “dates” that are usually “supervised” or like group hang outs, or family get together, and they can also talk online or on the phone or whatever the families decide is “appropriate”. After a few months, sometimes less sometimes more, they both say yes or no, if yes - a wedding, if no, the process starts again.
ORRRR - this is what happens much more often - boy sees a girl, brings up the topic of marriage with his own parents and says this is a girl I’m interested in, and then the same cycle from there where the parents meetup and the kids meetup.
In my friends case - they met through friends, talked for a bit, boy told his parents, girl told her parents, parents met up and loved eachother’s families and they waited for the semester to be over and babang, wedding. So yes - they liked each other from before.
I’m answering all of this from a cultural or tradition point - from a religious point it would be different. But that’s a whole different conversation.
I hope that clears it up for you - in modern times - most people find someone they like and bring it up to their parents. That’s how it’s happened for everyone in my generation. Feel free to ask me more questions if you’re curious. I lovee answering questions! :DDDDD
Taking one of my biggest tests of my life (well besides the ultimate one obviously), on Wednesday. Don’t know how I feel. Princeton was toooooo easy. Their verbal reading comprehension is difficult but the rest is just too too easy. Especially the math. And then Kaplan, the verbal is very hard. The vocab is semi hard. And the math is sooo easy with like two completely impossible wtf questions. But the online timed exams, I run out of time on the math. Every single time. Barron’s was everything in the middle but I did it a long long time ago. So idk. I’m doing Manhattan Prep right now and still have a few Kaplan Online Exams. Been studying forever. And it’s just like. Exam. Class. 42 hours in Florida (my first vacation in my life) and then class and applications and figuring out an honors project.
Let’s go? Janis says weakly and hesitatingly.